Mitchell titled this one "Moms big belly in tub."Mitchell fanning me through another contraction. Photo by Petal and Vine

Mitchell titled this one “Moms big belly in tub.” Photo by Petal and Vine

When we found out we were pregnant for the third time we were in shock but after about three days I realized I could have it all this time! I could have the family-centered homebirth I had dreamed about, the belly casting I never created, the artistic henna on my belly, and I would finally get to eat my placenta to experience the benefits. But most of all, I knew I could give my two boys something really special…the birth experience of their brother. What I didn’t expect was what they would give me.

My second birth was at a birthing center and included my oldest son (at that time Mitchell was 2 ½) but he was out of the room until his brother Mason was in my arms. So he wasn’t “part” of the labor and birth, which had always saddened me. I let other peoples thoughts of “scarring him” persuade me into thinking he couldn’t deal with birth. But during this pregnancy, and as a seasoned mama, I had no fear of birth and

Mitchell fanning me through another contraction.Photo by Petal and Vine

Mitchell fanning me through another contraction.Photo by Petal and Vine

didn’t fall for any negative influences. My husband Sam agreed so we moved forward and created our birth vision to allow both of our children to be part of the birth of Madox.

Since the birth was in our home I knew the boys would feel comfortable to come and go as they pleased. We had Grammy to take care of their needs so Sam could focus on me. The boys came in listened, curiously watched, fanned me and even drew pictures of me in the tub with a huge belly.

Once I was in the tub and things got really moving, they stayed and observed. Mason stood by my head and Mitchell was at my feet really interested in what was happening. Since I was home I didn’t really hold back, I hummed and even screamed. Beforehand, we tried to give them examples of crazy “birth sounds” to prepare them and I went over what happens when the baby comes while using charts I had for teaching…he knew more about the vagina than most adults!

Our new family. Photo by Petal and Vine

Our new family. Photo by Petal and Vine

Loving support by Mitchell.Photo by Petal and Vine

Loving support by Mitchell.Photo by Petal and Vine

Since Mason is only 3 ½ I am not sure how he really felt although he tells me it was, “cool” and “he got scared when I yelled.” I feel that short moment of me yelling in joy…”Give me my baby!” was totally worth the experience and opportunity to be part of such a life experience most never have the chance to witness. I believe this experience will help strengthen their future relationship as brothers with a closer attachment.

I am so thrilled that I was able to include my children at their brothers birth. Mitchell gave me kisses and hugs throughout the labor and birth while Mason fanned me and kissed me as well. What I didn’t expect was how much support these two little men brought to me during birth.

I felt complete and open to sharing this journey with them but they gave back much more love than I had ever imagined to feel during an intense event. This experience has made my heart fuller and given us all such a special bond, a magical feeling I will never forget.